Add up the number of times you replied “Yes” to obtain your total score.
- If your score is between 14 and 20: You are nice to a fault. It is likely that your interpersonal relationships as well as your emotional health actually
are negatively affected by your good intentions. You are paying far too high a price for being nice. When you replace nice at the core of your self-concept with less self-defeating traits, the rate of your recovery will speed up.
- If your score is between 8 and 13: Your people-pleasing problems are strongly associated with your excessive need to be nice to others, too often at the expense of being good to yourself. Letting go of your nice self-concept will speed the rate of your recovery.
- If your score is between 5 and 7: You still have a concern with being viewed as nice by others, though somewhat less so than most peoplepleasers. Build on your strengths—but remember that being nice isn’t one of them. You are still close to dangerous psychological territory and should monitor your tendencies to be nice at your own expense.
- If your score is between 0 and 4: You have an unusually low concern with being nice for someone with the Disease to Please. Check to be sure you are not falling into the trap of denial. But, if you’ve really overcome your need to be nice at your own expense, then you’ve already traveled some notable distance on the path to recovery. Build on your strengths.